8 toxic behaviors that push people away from you
Mood swings aren’t limited to hormonal women alone. Everyone experiences them now and then. How often have you heard someone apologize for their inappropriate behavior, using the I was in a mood’ line?
Often enough right. Life is tough, not just for you, but for every single person. Maybe not in the same way it is difficult for you.
Things don’t always work out the way you want them to. And some people put you in a mood by simply existing.
But, if you allow all this negativity to engulf you and to profess in your behavior, you’re not only harming yourself but everyone around you as well. Toxic behaviors will push people away. You yourself avoid toxic people, don’t you?
1. Being jealous of practically everyone!
Firstly, you should be grateful for all the good things in your life. That way you’ll never feel the need to compare your life with anyone else’s. Secondly, there shouldn’t be any need for comparison. Consider your family, let alone anyone else. Because you all want different things from life, your journeys are entirely different, and even though you’re related, every one of you has a distinct personality.
2. Thinking every word and action is about you
So even if someone is being rude, or at their worst around you, it doesn’t necessarily have to mean that you’re the reason behind it. Sure if you’ve done them wrong, that kind of behavior is expected. But don’t make everything about yourself. They might just be acting out because they’re having a bad day.
3. Constantly complaining about not having any power over your own life
Life isn’t all that fair at times. Everyone learns that sooner or later. But complaining about it doesn’t help in any way. It doesn’t allow you to move forward and simply annoys the people around you. There is always a tiny window of opportunity even in the most disastrous of situations. And you’d be able to find it, only if you stop whining so much and start focusing on damage control.
4. Holding on to things
What doesn’t kill you would only make you stronger if you allow it to. Holding on to pain, heartbreak and loss is just excess baggage you’re carrying around. It’s weighing you down. It’s keeping you from moving forward and growing. Try transforming all of that into strength. All the things you’ve been through should only make you fearless.
5. Being negative, ALL the time!
Negativity can be contagious. And people are definitely going to stay clear of you if you have a negative mindset. A little negativity is bound to creep into everyone’s head. But if you allow it to reside there, and grow, that’s where the problem begins. Not only are you convinced that something or the other is going to go wrong but that everyone is somehow out to get you.
6. Having no control over your emotions
It’s like you’re on an emotional high. You feel more intensely. You’re easily hurt and easily enraged. The tiniest of upset ticks you off. If this burst of emotions is too frequent, you should get to the root of it. A little slip of control once in a blue moon is excusable, but if it’s constant, you need help. Don’t be ashamed of seeking help when you need it.
7. Judging people too quickly
People and things often don’t appear to be how they actually are. Don’t jump to conclusions about anyone. Instead of judging them for their behavior, try placing yourself in their shoes. Consider why they’re acting the way they are. If they’re agitated with you, even when you haven’t done anything, it may be because of someone or something else.
8. Being unkind
Compassion is apparently becoming rare. People are becoming more self-involved and less concerned with others by the minute. Humans cannot thrive without compassion. It is something that holds us all together. It can help you win over people. When you lack empathy, you have no trouble being hurtful to the next person. You fail to realize the emotional and mental damage you’re causing them.
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